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“Bye, love you.”

I had just left my youngest sister a voicemail while walking from the Astor Place subway to my apartment in the East Village. I was wearing my summer uniform, which consisted of a floral dress and a beige backpack. My hair was pulled into a ponytail with two bobby pins. It was a warm June night, and I rejoiced in the perfection that is New York City on the cusp of summer.

I turned left onto 7th Street and walked by my old church. Next, I passed McSorley's, an ancient Irish pub where you only order “dark or light” beer. Their motto until the 1970s was, "Good Ale, Raw Onions and No Ladies." You can still order half a raw onion and a sleeve of saltines with the cheese platter.

As I walked down the street, I felt something poke my rear. I was passing a group of well-manicured bushes and assumed a twig had gotten caught on my dress. I took a few more steps, and then felt a human finger very precisely poke me once again. This time I turned around, expecting to see my roommate or another friend who lived on the block.

Whoosh.
His outstretched arms tightly encircled me.
We were face to face, breathing the same air. 
For a brief second I could see his eyes.
And then I understood.

“HELP, HELP, HELP, HELP.”

I was screaming like I’d been stabbed—but maybe I was about to be? Over and over and over again I said the words, “Help! Help me!” My vocal chords strained into a sound I’d never heard before. I was having an out-of-body experience, focusing on the frantic tone of my own voice. It seemed so animalistic. Was this little girl having a panic attack? I could tell she couldn’t breathe very well. Her arms were flailing, but it all seemed useless. Bruises were forming on her upper arms. Our protagonist in the floral dress was being crushed like a butterfly in a closing fist.

“You know what I want.”

I flew back into my body the moment he spoke, and this is what I saw: There was a man in a blue polo shirt, a dark jacket, and jeans now holding both my arms with one hand. They were bent in a painfully awkward position.

His other hand was on my knee.
Now on my lower thigh.
Now on my upper thigh.
His hand was on a place no stranger’s hand should be.

As he groped for more, I blessed the bicycle shorts I wear under all my dresses. The assaulter’s hand reached the most intimate part of my body, but he became confused—the bicycle shorts were not part of his ill-conceived plan.

In second one of his hesitation, I remembered what my mother used to say when we were children: “Never go anywhere with someone, no matter what. You won’t come back.” In second two of his hesitation, I remembered what a college friend named Kaitlin Mahoney once said in regards to getting assaulted: “Go limp; fall to the floor. Relax every muscle.”

I slowly maneuvered the groper and myself into the street, knowing that I’d have a better chance of being spotted. As he attempted to finish what he’d started, I shut down every muscle in my body and collapsed toward the pavement. I stared at the ground, mentally visualizing myself melting into the cool black asphalt. I pictured magnets attached to my arms and legs, pulling me down, down, down.  Oddly, I felt a death-like peace.  

He held my body for a moment, but my weight made him stagger. As he began to drop me, he squeezed my arms tighter. I played dead. My left cheek was now pressed into the gravel. But I peered down the road, and there in the distance were shadowy legs walking hesitantly toward me. If I could just make it to those people…

Because I was facedown, the attacker now had to readjust his hold—there was no other option. As he pivoted, I pounced up and took off running. I turned around, tears flying from my face, and saw two men. One was my attacker. Another was a homeless man who, from what I could tell, was on my side. He waved his arms frantically, as if to say, “Go from this place!” 

I reached a group of men at the bottom of the street and called the cops. Two born and bred Brooklyn gents were immediately ready to fight the attacker who, strangely enough, was walking toward us.

“Don’t fight him, don’t fight him,” you can hear me saying on the police tape. “We’re on 2nd Ave and 7th,” I then respond to the dispatcher. “He’s still here. We need someone here.” I am crying. “I know the precinct is right around the corner. 2nd and 7th. I’m on 2nd and 7th! Are they coming?”

Casey Holloway strolled by our ragtag group, which now included myself, the homeless man who tried to assist me, and two aggressive Brooklynites. He spit in my direction and mumbled something unintelligible. Then he walked south down 2nd Avenue toward Houston Street. 

An unimaginable rage burst through the center of my chest, like acidic fire.

“We gonna follow em, c’mon. We gonna get this asshole. Miss, you wanna get this guy?” The man’s thick Brooklyn accent made me internally chuckle. “Yes, let’s follow him,” I said with mock assurance. I was shaking so badly I could barely hold my phone, but walking felt good. Walking felt powerful.

Holloway went down one sidewalk, while we paralleled him on another sidewalk across the road. With only the street between us, I commenced my journey and prayed for safety. He stopped, started, and stared but he never deviated off 2nd Avenue.

6th Street… 4th Street… 2nd Street…

“Don’t approach him—what if he has a weapon?” I screamed at the men, and frantically bit my lip. Where were the cops? It had been nearly 15 minutes since my initial call. Just when the tension was about to bleed into violence, patrol cars roared down the street. Two cops jumped out and pinned Holloway to the ground. Another one motioned for me. “Is this the man?” They pulled his head up and we looked each other in the eye for the second time that evening.

“Yes.”

I watched as he was placed in the back of a cop car, cuffed and apathetic. I hated his dead, dark eyes. But the toxic rage, which had spread to every cell in my body, was now slowly subsiding.  

That night was a whirlwind of police questioning and Coca-Cola. As my body went from shock to a drug-like exhaustion, I sipped sugary soda in the waiting room and washed the mascara from my face with a napkin.

My then-boyfriend, now-fiancé Ryan arrived at the police station. He was solemn but steady. I held his pinky finger as the detectives questioned me in a cold room with two-way glass. “Where did he touch you?” “Was it here or here?” “How did he grab you?”

I finally fell into my bed at 5am, cold and bruised—but unmistakably alive. The next morning, I woke up with salty eyelashes and a phone call from the ADA. I’d need to come in and share my testimony as soon as possible. And so, the yearlong court process began.

***

I have a quiet rage.

It’s most likely been resting inside of me since I was a little girl, but I first remember releasing it in college when I was told I “could not” while knowing that I certainly “could.”

That same rage builds up inside of me when society discusses topics like Roger Ailes, unequal pay, or how one might like to “grab her by the p*ssy.”  Every time—every time—that phrase is uttered, the events of this terrible night pop into my head.  I can smell him. I can taste my sweat.

This story is nothing special.
In fact, many women have experienced this and much worse.
So, let’s not weep over it.
I was even blessed with a “happy” ending.

I’m telling you this so that you can grasp the dark shadow hanging over my head today—and occasionally, other days. It is my hope that you might understand why this morning I again woke up with salty eyelashes.

But tomorrow?
Tomorrow, I'll wake up with a heart full of hope, and a spirit of determined joy that, I pray, will always overcome my humanistic need to hate. 


Can you see the sunset real good on the West side? You can see it on the East side too.
— S.E. Hinton, "The Outsiders"

New York Tip #4: Never Enter An Empty Subway Car

Our city is beautiful during “Golden Hour.” At the conclusion of a busy day, rays of sunlight dance amongst the skyscrapers, freckling the sidewalks with honey-colored light. I watched this phenomenon from a subway platform in Woodside, Queens. My glass world glowed.

Click, click, click.

The 7 train was rounding a bend into the 52 Street Station, full of people commuting every which way. In Queens the majority of subway rails are located above ground on raised platforms. As one might imagine, this has extreme pros and cons—such as cell service and snow.

I spotted an empty-ish car and quickly began waking toward it. In summer, I had already learned that an unpopulated section of the train typically means one of two things: Either the AC isn’t working and you will sweat until you can’t see straight, or there is a very unpleasant smell waiting to attack your gag reflexes. But it was currently the dead of winter, so I took my chances.

Upon entering the subway car, I spotted about six other people. One was an intoxicated man who was mumbling to himself. This is a sad, yet common occurrence. But nothing smelled and no one was getting murdered, so I happily plopped into a seat.

But oh, how innocent I was.
“La de mo. Shit. To fippp. Oo.”

As the train began to move, I realized the disturbed man in question was becoming quite vocal. He stood and wobbled to one remote corner of the train, then continued speaking nonsense as we rolled into the next station. When the train began moving again, he loosened his belt. I looked away and tried to catch eyes with the older woman sitting across from me, but she was doing a crossword puzzle. The man slouched to my left was lost in thought, and everyone else was on the opposite end of the car.

I stared at my fingernails and tried to appear as blasé as possible.
Ah, how interesting… my nails.
The man began taking his clothes off.
My nails! They are… well, they are my nails.
The man is wearing no pants.
Maybe I should stop biting my nails?
The man is making strange noises...

Curiosity got the best of me, and I peeked back over at the belt-less man whose pants were now down to his ankles. But his posture is what stood out to me the most—why was he crouching, his bum hovering over the orange plastic seat?

No.
No, no, NO.
That man was pooping on the subway.
That man was pooping on the subway! 

“Er, espa. Din deeen!!”

And with that loud statement, I became a witness to one of the more grotesque things a human can do in an enclosed public space.

“Ewww,” I said audibly, moving to the farthest corner of the train along with the silent but annoyed crossword woman. Also please note: When one defecates on a moving train, one's waste does not remain in a singular location.

There was literally sh*t sliding all over the place.  

At this point, we were arriving at the next station—my station, praise Jesus—so I pulled a wool scarf over my mouth and held my breath. A part of me felt terrible for the overly intoxicated human; the other part felt queasy. I closed my eyes as a strong stench crept toward us.

Then the doors suddenly opened and the six of us fled Poop Train. But before leaving the scene, I saw one couple enter the now deserted car, grabbing those highly-coveted empty seats. I didn’t have time to warn them—and that is a deep regret of mine.

But the train doors closed, sealing their smelly fates. And unfortunately for them, this was the last stop before Manhattan so they would be locked in Poop Train for a longer period of time than your average subway ride. 

Friends, I tell you this story for a reason: 
Whether it’s winter,
or summer...
Whether it's rush hour,
or quiet...
Never enter an empty subway car.
You could get pooped on.

And now you know! 

5 Subway Tips for Travelers:

  • Consider getting a paper map of the subway system before your trip. While cell phones are helpful, you will loose service underground for periods of time. Here’s my map recommendation.

  • New Yorkers might always be “on the go,” but I guarantee you can find someone to assist you—don’t be afraid to ask for directions!

  • New York rush hour is from approximately 7am - 9am and 4pm - 6pm. The subways will be more packed than usual during these times.

  • If you’re traveling alone or have sensitivities to sounds, consider getting some noise canceling headphones. It will make for a much more peaceful journey! Here’s what I pop in my ears while commuting. There’s tons of options out there.

  • Quick subway etiquette:

    • Let people off the train before trying to enter the train car.

    • Do not block the subway doors—move into the middle of the subway car when possible.

    • The left side of the escalator is for walking, and the right side of the escalator is for standing. Don’t block the lefthand side (or someone might snap at you—perhaps, me!).

New York City Tip #3: Learn to Live Seasonally

Some people are more deeply in tune with seasonality than others. I’m not sure if that personality trait is a pro or con, just merely a fact. Another point worth observing: To live in New York City you must be able to cope with the weather—like a farmer during the Dust Bowl, like Noah and his flood. The elements will dictate your comfort level and you are bequeathed no amount of control.

I am summer.

I am the pesky ray of light that creeps through your blinds each morning. I am the sticky, humid air that affixes to your every pore. I am the burst of excitement or despair that can command your mood—as bright as a blue morning and as gray as a stormy afternoon. My summer fairies and I are full of undying energy come June, likely to buzz fiercely through October without a moment of true rest. We are addicting, we are quick-thinking, fast-footed creatures who pound, pound, pound the pavement all day and play all night, drinking in the warm weather like some life-giving elixir.

And then it stops.

Like the leaves on fall’s vibrant trees, we wilt away into a self-inflicted hibernation. And a new group takes the lead, with their love of all things autumn: the calmer pace, the cinnamon-filled serene days, the crisp air. Of course these traits can be enjoyable—but as a celebrator of summer, they're only a reminder that winter is soon to come.

Now as someone with such an acute bias, it's important for me to take a step back in my description of seasons. I have two arguments to make: The most important point I can present is that each group of months bestows something attractive, be it bathing suit-clad strolls by the lake or fireside chats with Manhattans and marshmallows. But my second argument is that city dwellers (in this case, New Yorkers) have another level of appreciation and resentment for Mother Nature’s iron fist. When I moved to this bustling metropolis, I wish someone had explained to my bewildered and ambitious little soul that what I understood of snow and stifling heat was simply not enough. 

*** 

“It’s only 3 flights up,” I told my father and mother. They were carrying a wooden bookcase through the entrance of a pre-war building in Queens. The August humidity had us wilting into pools of our own sweat. It was over 100 degrees, and only a small fan in the corner of the apartment produced any semblance of a slight breeze. My body had not yet adapted to a life without central AC and I remember plopping onto the couch, dehydrated to the point of seeing spots.  

I slept on top of my sheets that night, bought cockroach traps five days later, and learned to appreciate cold showers three weeks into my new adventure.  

*** 
“I won’t be able to get into the city tomorrow.” I sent this message to my editor at the Huffington Post. It was October of 2012 and Superstorm Sandy was making her way up the East Coast, seemingly headed straight for New York. The city was shutting down the entire subway system so I'd need to work from home—unless I wanted to sleep at the office, which, people did do. But those people were making more than $10 an hour.

Autumn had been (and typically is) quite mild. Most were not prepared for the intense flooding that would accompany Halloween. The storm overtook our little island, and I watched from my rooftop in Queens as the lights of lower Manhattan suddenly went out. Nature was reminding us who was in control.

***
“I’m wa-wa-walking to work. I’ll call you later,” I said through chattering teeth to my mother. It was too cold to have a pleasant conversation outside. My weather defense system consisted of a down jacket to my knees, boots, two pairs of socks, tights under my jeans, a t-shirt under my sweater, gloves, a wool scarf, and a fur-trimmed hood. Only my eyes peeked out from this strange uniform. At the time I was interning for Martha Stewart Living. Her pristine all-white offices were located 15 minutes from the train, on the edge of the Hudson River. Three mornings a week, I walked into the biting wind with a PB&J in my hand and broken blood vessels sprinkled across my cheeks. I was given a $25 lunch stipend each Monday; no pay.  

***
Up to this point I’ve neglected to mention evasive spring, with its fickle spirit of rebirth. All I can remember about this season in New York is the immense amount of rain, the hot days that turn into freezing nights, and then, finally, the two weeks of tulips. For a period of about 14 days our city is sunny perfection. Fifth Avenue and Central Park are filled with thousands of bright flowers. Tulips are placed on every plausible patch of green, and the cherry blossoms burst all over Brooklyn.

Then suddenly summer is back.
And we’ve made it another year.

I wonder if the snow loves the trees and fields, that it kisses them so gently? And then it covers them up snug, you know, with a white quilt; and perhaps it says, “Go to sleep, darlings, till the summer comes again.
— Lewis Carroll, Through the Looking-Glass

Never Change, Just Always

A wave of humidity settled over New York this summer, and it seemed to shake everything up.

A friend of mine asked me six months ago, “Are you dying to be engaged?” I told her that yes; I was ready to marry Ryan. Something about last August solidified our relationship and that deep assurance bled into fall. By Christmas, I knew without a doubt that I'd selected my partner in crime. It was an oddly undeniable feeling.

But was I dying to be engaged? No, not entirely. I rarely crave modifications in The Big Three: housing, significant others, and jobs. That’s not to say I don’t enjoy a little switch up. I just don’t ever pine for change—mostly because it has always woken up, and smacked me in the face.

I was very content with life for the last year and that’s how I knew change was on the hunt, sniffing around for an ideal time to appear. I probably created the catalyst by taking a two-week trip; that deviation from the norm seemed to wake the beast. February was for planning, March was for Scotland, and April was for Iceland. Then I was in a best friend’s wedding, I gleefully got engaged, I moved to Brooklyn, babies were born, sisters lost their jobs, and Ryan’s eye decided it no longer wanted to function.

This is why one should not crave change. It’s my opinion change will find you.

(I’m sitting in a coffee shop typing this, and I feel very safe in front of my computer with a cup of caffeine seeping into my blood stream. The wheels are starting to turn in my dusty Sunday morning brain. I could sit here forever, the breeze blowing in from an open window while Bob Dylan plays at a low volume…  

Ah, but I couldn’t.
I take back everything I just told you.
I’m already bored and I've had too much coffee.
Plus, I’d be terribly irritable if the world didn’t keep spinning madly round.)

Maybe I’d like to rephrase if you’d allow me that, dear reader?

I adore change just as I adore being content in certain seasons. My anxiety was speaking out, and she is a much worse monster than change. She is the evil queen of stagnant motions. She gets her cheap thrills from repetition and fear. She doesn’t like success because it’s too much of a gamble, and her favorite pastime is chewing brains into dull submission.  

No, no we shall not feed that beast.
It's true; this has been a terrible summer—isolating and humid.  
But just like every season, it is not infinite.

So I’ll sit
And I’ll wait.
And then I’ll plan out the next steps.

Where shall Ryan and I travel? What should I write next? Will I finally do my laundry today? Will Ryan’s fourth eye surgery actually work? I don’t know the answers to these questions.

This I do know: With one hundred percent certainty, many of our delicately constructed plans will be altered. But the joke’s on life—because we don’t know what we want, either.

We just hope to keep progressing forward.
And, luckily, we have the ability to do that. 

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Would you like an adventure now, or would like to have your tea first?
— J.M. Barrie, Peter Pan

 

Reykjadalur Hike in Southern Iceland

If you’re seeking a simple day trip from Reykjavik or road tripping through the south of Iceland, here’s a hot spring-filled hike worth taking. After walking an hour through winding hills and valleys, you’ll be rewarded with a steamy stream to relax in—plus, catch some wild views of this otherworldly island. 

Directions from Reykjavik

Hop onto Road 1 heading southeast toward Hveragerði. After about 40 minutes, you’ll come to a roundabout. Take the exit for Breiðamörk north, toward the Reykjadalur valley. This will lead you through Hveragerði’s main street and then down a gravel road—don’t worry, you’re still going the right way!

There’s a car park at the foot of the valley, as well as a café that’s open during peak travel season. Cross the small bridge by foot to reach the beginning of the trail. It’s well marked, and you will most likely see other travelers en route.  

Hike Length

It took us about one hour to walk to the hot springs (with plenty of picture taking), and about 40 minutes to get back to the parking lot. It’s safe to give yourself at least 2.5 hours if you plan on swimming. 

What to Bring

Since our hike took place in April, everyone wore layers to keep warm. We slipped bathing suits on under our shirts and packed a change of clothes, as well as small microfiber towels. There are no changing rooms—so our long coats doubled as one! Hiking boots are a must, considering the amount of mud in certain areas of the trail. Lastly: Don’t forget your camera, a snack, and a water bottle.

Don’t have a car?

There are several tours that will take you to Reykjadalur, though we found renting a car for our 6-day trip to be less expensive that taking individual tours.

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Here's one of the earlier views during the hike. You can see the car park in the distance.

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You'll find pockets of bubbling earth along your journey to the hot springs. Look, don't touch.

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Here's what the Reykjadalur hike looks like in Spring—a coffee-colored mix of earth and snow.

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The word "Reykjadalur" is translated to "steam valley." You can see why it was named that.

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Even in April, you need a bathing suit in Iceland.

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Hope you enjoy the hike! Have questions? Leave a comment below. 


Ice Apartments Reykjavik

Ice Apartments Reykjavik

Located in Reykjavk 101, this apartment is within a 10-minute walk of National Theatre of Iceland, Hallgrimskirkja, and Reykjavik City Hall. National Museum of Iceland and Perlan are also within 2 mi (3 km). High-speed Internet


The Waiting Game

I'm a writer without a pen. 

There's lots of chaos happening around me at the moment. I'm perched in a random chair near a highly coveted outlet in the Barnes & Noble on 86th Street. A duo of Upper East children are screaming for "more cookies!" to their nanny, who try as she might, cannot keep them at bay. Someone in a tennis skirt just tripped in the Fiction section, and a man is talking loudly on his cell phone while searching through the car lovers' magazines.

 I have 18 unanswered texts, 36 new emails, 2 missed calls, and a handful of Slack notifications. There's a gunman in a movie theater in Germany. Trump's ex-campaign manager is speaking out! Someone nearby is coughing in the most disturbing way. 

Ryan sends me a text.
"Ok I'm next. I love you, see you in a bit."  

During book club one night prior, my typically social fiancé didn't feel inclined to participate. I found this odd considering he was hosting the event and seemed to enjoy our novel, though I didn't press. Long day, work problems, city living stress—it could have been a cocktail of frustrations.  

But as people trickled out of his apartment, I discovered that Ryan's lifelong annoyance was behind his sudden shift in mood. He could no longer see out of a portion of his right eye, and we needed to go to emergency room. Immediately. He packed a Amaretto Sour to-go, while I hailed the Uber. 

Hours later we learned what we already expected: There was a tear in his retina and if it completely detached he would be blind in one eye. Surgery was needed as soon as possible. 

"Love you, too. Cya in a few!" I texted him and ignored everything else on my phone. The woman with the perpetual cough now popped her dentures in and out. Time to move.

As I collect my scattered belongings, my mind races in circles like a Ferris wheel of doom: Two of my close friends just got laid off. I'm supposed to move out of my apartment Sunday, and I haven't packed a thing. In fact, I may have laundry at the cleaners? My best friend has a doctor digging around in his eyeball. Our next book club novel (“The Count of Monte Cristo,” unabridged) is so dense that it won’t fit in my purse and, therefore, I cannot purchase it today.

Oddly enough, that last problem sends me over the edge.
I have no book!
I have no pen.  

I tear up as I place “Monte Cristo” back on the shelf.
Idle hands, idle mind.
Ah, let’s walk. 

Now I'm on the street, the first breath of summer caressing the back of my neck. It's not too humid today so I meander and wait for the call to come fetch Ryan from the grips of localized anesthesia.  

Walking around New York has always given me a sense of peace. The buzzing of our brick and metal world is revitalizing to an extrovert who doesn't want to communicate, yet desperately needs to steal other's energy. As I pace the streets, I rejoice in the fact that I can see with my two healthy eyes. The wind picks up. It might rain; the smell of a thunderstorm is lingering. I take it all in.  

I pass an orchid shop on 80th Street, which makes me think of Ryan. He'd sent me a text earlier in the day saying he was, "strolling down Lexington looking at the flowers." I thought it was an odd message at the time—but now I wondered: Was he worried that he’d never again be able to see a flower’s bright petals?

This thought made me sad so I kept walking, this time thanking God we have two eyes instead of one. You wouldn't have a lot of chances as a Cyclops. 

And then it happens.
I find a pen.

It's dirty because it’s been dropped on the sidewalk, but this fact has never bothered me. I discover lovely garbage on the street all the time—candleholders, ancient books, etc.—and sometimes they come home with me. So without much thought, I reach down and scoop up my forgotten friend. Waves of anxiety seem to physically lift off my overactive brain. 

Now, I can write everything down. 

[Editor’s Note: After all this nonsense, Ryan wakes up from surgery and tells me there was a pen in his bag the whole time—oy! He goes back under the knife today. Thank you again for everyone’s prayers and support.]

15 Things to Know About Iceland

I recently went on a six-day road trip with two friends through the south of Iceland. We hiked volcanic hills, sampled local cuisine, and witnessed the Panama Paper protests in Reykjavik. Our trip was incredible—but a good amount of research made for a smooth journey. Below are a few insights I was glad to know before embarking on our Nordic adventure. 


1. Tipping

You don't need to tip in Iceland. No one is going to turn down your extra cash, but it’s already been included in the bill. This applies to both restaurants tabs and cab fares. 

2. Car Rental

My travel crew rented a vehicle from Reykjavik Cars at Keflavik International Airport. It was pricey, but not shady. We opted for a 4X4 so that we could access most roads. I would recommend this to anyone planning to see more than the Golden Circle, especially if you're not traveling during the summer. We also paid a tad extra for gravel insurance so we didn’t have to hold our breath going over every little bump. (It was definitely worth the 7 Euro a day.) We skipped out on theft insurance, as well as sand and ash protection.

Quick tip: Never leave your car door open. The wind gusts in some areas of Iceland can push the doors back too far, and snap them off the hinges. This is an expensive fix! We thought the rental agency was joking when they warned us about this fascinating issue—until we visited Dyrhólaey lighthouse. My door almost blew off into the wind, like Dorthy in "The Wizard of Oz."

The view from Dyrhólaey lighthouse in the south of Iceland.

3. Iceland's Not Cheap

Iceland is more expensive than the average European country, but it can be done on a budget if you watch the food and lodging spend. Take free hikes, drive to the attractions yourself, and avoid group excursions. Restaurants were the real kicker—which leads us to the next tip. 

4. Plan Out Your Meals

Buy breakfast food, PB&J fixings, and alcohol in Reykjavik. Most travelers agree that Bonus is the cheapest supermarket. You'll find a good number of restaurants along Ring Road, which we indulged in for dinner. But pack a bagged lunch for your hikes, grab some snacks for the car, and have toast or fruit for breakfast. That will save you a good $30 a day. 

Alcohol is hard to find outside of the main cities. The hours for many liquor and wine shops are quite restrictive. Spirits are not sold at most grocery stores or gas stations, except for beer with a 2.25% ABV—which tricked us once in the town of Kirkjubæjarklaustur. (And no, I didn't make up that word.) If you've left Reykjavik, state-run Vínbúðins are your best bet for purchasing cocktail ingredients. 

Fun fact: Similar to United States, Iceland had a period of prohibition that began in 1915. While wine restrictions were lifted in 1921 and liquor restrictions in 1935, the sale of beer over 2.25% was illegal until 1989! Iceland now celebrates "Beer Day" on March 1 every year because it's the anniversary of the beer law reversal. 

Iceland's southern town of Vik is surrounded by scenic cliffs and black sand beaches.

Iceland's southern town of Vik is surrounded by scenic cliffs and black sand beaches.

5. Cell Phones

I'd recommend purchasing a SIM card at the airport convenience store. It's cheap, and we used Google Maps on our phones during the entirety of the trip. (Also, Instagram.)

6. The Blue Lagoon

Sure, it's touristy. But the Blue Lagoon is totally worth the time, especially if you're coming to or from the airport. Situated about 30 minutes south of Keflavik International, this vast geothermal spa is one of the most visited attractions in Iceland. Because of it's popularity, be sure to pre-book your tickets

Once you've arrived, you'll wait in a quick moving line to register a wristband. We opted for the "Comfort" package, which includes two mud masks, one drink, and—most importantly—a towel. Since we were boarding our planes back to the States right after our Blue Lagoon visit, this was an important perk. 

Next, you'll move on to the locker rooms. There's enough storage for a purse, but it's wise to leave any luggage in the car. You can also rent a separate locker for larger bags if you're coming from the airport via bus—this storage center is located in a separate building, near the parking lot. 

Before changing into your swimsuit you must shower. The staff requires it! If you're terrified of being naked in front of other people, there are several private showers. Be sure to leave a bit of extra conditioner in your hair because the silica in the water can wreak havoc on your locks. 

My final tip: Give yourself enough time to enjoy the experience. We arrived at 11 a.m., but weren't in the water until about 11:40. After our (relaxing) swim, it took us another 40 minutes to shower again, dress, dry our hair, and return wristbands. We needed to be at the gate by 4 p.m., and our reservation gave us a healthy amount of time to return the rental car, go through Customs, grab a bite to eat before takeoff, etc.  

Iceland's famous Blue Lagoon.

7. Icelandic vs. English 

Everyone we met spoke perfect English. Icelanders have a deliciously witty sense of humor, with a sprinkle of sarcasm. So don’t worry, my fellow Americans. You will easily be able to communicate in this country.

8. Drinking Water

The water (especially near Reykjavik) smells like sulfur—but drink it! We couldn't taste a thing. Don't let a whiff of rotten eggs deter you from sampling some of the cleanest water in the world. Plus, you’ll save a fortune not buying over-priced bottles of agua. 

9. Unpredictable Weather

Iceland's weather is erratic during any given season. We traveled to the island in early April and were lucky to experience very little precipitation. That said, some roads to attractions we wanted to see were closed from previous snow storms, so we had to be flexible with our plans. The best method? Map out your dream route before flying to Iceland. Then, each night, sit down and see what looks plausible for the next day based on weather conditions and time restraints. 

Geysir Hot Springs on Iceland's popular Golden Circle.

10. Clothing

(See "What to Wear in Iceland: 15 Essentials for Cold Weather" to view a full packing list!) 

You should pack a variety of clothes, especially if you're traveling in the winter or during the shoulder seasons (Apr-May and Sept-Oct). I can only attest to personal preferences during the month of April, but my uniform consisted of a sweater, jeans, waterproof boots, and a down jacket. Somedays I slipped into a lighter coat; other days I bundled up with a scarf and hat. The high was typically between 40-45 degrees Fahrenheit, so it wasn't much different than April in New York City. Here's a handy guide of the average temperatures in Iceland by month. 

My two most important purchases before the trip were a pair of "duck boots" from L.L. Bean, and a water-resistant backpack. They both survived rain, mud, snow, and 13 days of hiking.  

Oh, and don't forget a bathing suit! The island is basically one big hot spring, so always pack swimwear and a small towel for hikes. You never know what body of steaming, crystal clear water you might jump into.  

Heather and I enjoying the hot springs at Hveragerdi, 40 minutes east of Reykjavik.

Heather and I enjoying the hot springs at Hveragerdi, 40 minutes east of Reykjavik.

11. Icelandair  

Look into Icelandair’s stopover program if you're flying from the United States to Europe, or vise versa. I was able to find a decent deal from London to Iceland to Dulles, and it's free to "stopover" on the island as long as you're staying for 7 nights or less. 

12. Shopping

Visitors can shop tax free in Iceland. When purchasing items like wool or fur, be sure to ask the salesclerk for a Tax Free Form. At the airport, head over to the Customs desk before checking in for your flight and get a stamp on your form. Refunds can take up to three months. Here’s a wee bit more information.

13. Bring a Camera

Iceland is made for those who love photography and a bit of adventure. Bring a decent camera so you can capture the beauty of the island. Also, your iPhone will not be able to take photos of the Northern Lights—you’ll need a DSLR and a tripod for that magic. I use a Canon Rebel and upgraded a 50mm lens for up-close, portrait shots.

Alice standing on the black sand beaches of Vik, near a basalt cave.

14. CONVERTERS

Don't forget an outlet converter! Iceland uses the Europlug/Schuko-Plug, which has two round prongs. Every place we stayed provided a hair dryer, so we didn't have to worry about voltage issues. Here’s the converter I prefer.

15. AIRBNB AND GUEST HOUSES

If you’re interested in staying at an Airbnb while visiting Reykjavik, I'd highly suggest the Old Bike Shop. We met a ton of travelers here and found the family to be extremely hospitable. They chatted with us each night about our adventures, offered up suggestions, and discussed Icelandic culture. Wherever you stay in Reykjavik, try and be near the busy, restaurant-filled streets of Hallgrímskirkja and Laugavegur so you can wander without a vehicle.

Finding Airbnbs outside of Reykjavik proved to be quite difficult, particularly in the Southeast. Expedia.com and Booking.com were a great tool for securing rooms, reading reviews, and searching through lists of amenities. Cottages and "guest houses" are popular in Iceland, many of which are family owned.

The most high-end place we stayed was the Farmhouse Lodge outside Vik. The wifi was strong, the beds were comfy, breakfast was included, and our host offered up a slew of helpful recommendations. On the opposite end of the spectrum, our cheapest nights were spent at Horgsland Cottages. There were pros and cons here. Positives: We each had our own rooms, there were two large hot tubs, and it was a fabulous price. Cons: The internet never worked, the property is large so you'll rarely interact with the host, and the shower was tiny! But overall, it was worth the price and we enjoyed our time drinking wine and searching for the Northern Lights in a hot tub full of excited travelers. 


To move, to breathe, to fly, to float, to gain all while you give. To roam the roads of lands remote, to travel is to live.
— Hans Christian Andersen

Iceland Guesthouse - Hv�t�

Iceland Guesthouse - Hvita

Situated on the riverwalk, this guesthouse is within 12 mi (20 km) of Deildartunguhver Hot Springs, Ullarselid -The Wool Hut, and Agricultural Museum of Iceland. Skallagrimsgardur and The Settlement Centre are also within 20 mi (32 km). High-speed Internet


The Engagement Story

“Meet me outside of the St. Regis Hotel.”

Ryan and I had started a new ritual this past month. We selected three date nights: One would be cheap, the second meal an average price, and the last date more expensive than a typical night out. He would pay for the first set of three, and I the next. For added effect, Ryan never told me where we were going ahead of time. It had been enjoyable to both plan and attend these well-researched New York City dates.

May 13th was the last meal in his round. I’d worn a dress and heels—he, a gray suit to comply with the restaurant’s dress code. Both of us carried umbrellas as we walked down Park Avenue in the remnants of a light mist.

Ryan led us toward the entrance of Aquavit, a Scandinavian eatery with two Michelin Stars and a respected chef’s tasting menu. The three-hour dining experience had us sampling nine courses of delights like king crab, black bass, venison tartar, and buttery caviar. While it’s true that some of my most beloved dishes still come from Taco Bell, this was indeed a culinary treat.

Meanwhile, in Brooklyn, a dinner of a different sort was taking place. It was undoubtedly much louder and filled with excited, jittery conversation. I can only hypothesize what it was like waiting, waiting, waiting.

Flashback to Manhattan.

“Shall we subway, or cab?” I ask Ryan as he walked out of the restroom.
“Let’s take a cab. I don’t want to get on the subway after a meal like this,” he said with a grin. 

Before our date, Ryan had told me he wanted to give me a “dorky” gift. “Oh. Should I get you one?” was my first response. He laughed a "no," and assured me he'd just found something sentimental while cleaning his apartment. When we exited the taxi he reminded me of said “dorky” gift.

“Don’t open it yet!” He briskly walked into the bathroom. It seemed he needed to use the facilities one more time. I giggled and eyed the tower of three red boxes sitting on his kitchen table. Ryan’s elegant dinner had already exceeded my expectations for the evening. Perhaps, I needed to reevaluate my three date selections…

“OK, you can open them now,” he said, standing beside me as I popped the first lid. He began to explain what the gift was, but I already knew. The cork from our first bottle of wine lay resting in the box—I couldn’t believe he’d kept it for two and a half years. Ryan loses his keys seasonally, but he’d never misplaced this small token from our early days together.

I thought back to the night we opened that bottle of wine. It was his birthday, but he’d just moved from Chicago and hadn’t made any plans. For some reason when he texted me this, I felt unreasonably sad about not being with him. We’d only gone on one date, but shouldn’t every novice New Yorker have someone to celebrate life with? The answer is yes, always yes. So I left my work event early, grabbed a bottle of wine, and hopped a train to Brooklyn. When the subway car crossed over the Manhattan Bridge, I could see all the twinkling lights of our city and for a moment I considered if I was being too brash. But then I smiled to myself, and decided I was simply being adventurous.

I opened the next box.

It was a paper fortune from our first date at the Mermaid Inn. I remembered that evening well: Ryan asked if I wanted to split one of the specials. Of course, I said. I’d been so nervous before our rendezvous I hadn’t eaten a thing. So, assuming it was the main meal that we were sharing, I hungrily consumed 70%* of the dish and then stared at him, wide-eyed, when he asked me what I wanted for my main entrée. I explained the confusion—boys never ordered me appetizers!—and somewhat sheepishly boxed up most of my dinner. Which, I then ate on the subway platform, like the classy broad that I am.

It’s worth noting that the fortune predicted I was in love.

In the last box, there was a receipt from the night Ryan asked me out. We had been on a margarita crawl for a friend’s birthday. The final stop was El Camion, our crew’s Mexican home base and all around favorite hang during those East Village years. At one point in the evening, Betsy and I were talking to Ryan. He was explaining how he liked to cook, doesn’t mind laundry, and would make a great stay-at-home dad. I leaned over and said, “Marry me!” in jest.

“What?” he said.
“Ha, nothing,” I responded, now slightly embarrassed. Betsy was giving me a perplexed face and nervously stirring her drink with a straw.
“No, I couldn’t hear you over the music,” Ryan pressed.
“Er... I said ‘marry me!’”
“Oh.”

Let if be known, he asked me out on our first date within 10 minutes of my margarita-infused outburst.

“Thank you for these gifts, Ryan!” I said, hugging him from my seat. I held the little wine cork between my fingers, adoring the tangible relics of our past. It was now difficult to think of a New York without him in it.

“I have on more present,” he said, pulling out a small black box.
“Oh my gosh,” I pressed both hands to my cheeks like the kid from “Home Alone.”
He got down on one knee.
“Is this happening?!” I asked.
“Yes. Britney, you’re my best friend…”
“Is this HAPPENING?!
“Yes,” he smiled. “You’re my best friend and I love you.”

Then I dropped to my knees, too. Both of us sat on the floor of his apartment while he slipped a family heirloom ring on my finger. As Ryan describes it, “We laughed, we cried, we prayed, we danced.”

After 10 minutes of giddy rejoicing, it was time to call our parents. I hit the Facetime button on my phone and hoped Mom would pick up. While we waited, the doorknob to Ryan’s apartment began to turn. I remember being briefly frustrated that someone was attempting to rob us—it seemed like exceedingly inconvenient timing. 

Instead of a burglar, my sisters Kathryn and Grace burst through the door, followed by both sets of our parents. Screams! We were all screaming. And then everything clicked: Ryan’s multiple bathroom trips this evening were to text our families. The three scheduled dates would keep me unaware. His mom’s random NYC visit this April was to drop off the ring…

I can’t recall a time I’ve ever been more surprised. That word doesn’t even describe what I felt—it’s too overused. “Surprise!” is what you say to your coworker at an office birthday party. I was what you call awestruck. 

And, it turns out, when I am awestruck I shout like my mother while she’s watching a football game and inexplicably feel the need to jump on whomever I can grab first. See below.

Thank you to Ryan’s parents for making the trip from Chicago to NYC for this special event. I can’t wait to join your family. Thank you to my parents, sisters, and brother for making me feel so loved—always. I can’t wait to grow our family. And of course, think you to my soon-to-be husband for planning every painstaking detail of our engagement, from a mandatory social media ban for our families, to the sentimental gifts that define our first days together.

I have found my person.
I’m going to be Ryan Nugent’s wife.
And he will be my husband. 
And oh, what a story we will share.



*This number was changed from 60% to 70% after the careful review of Mr. Ryan Nugent. All other views in the post were deemed satisfactory and truthful.